This is not meant to be judgmental but rather a statement of fact based on my years of experience as a psychotherapist. Infidelity is a lose-lose situation for all parties. No matter how bad your relationship is there is never any good reason to have an affair. WHY? You may ask. Aside from the obvious reasons of the pain and suffering it causes to everyone around you, your (partner, children, and family members). It is also harmful to you. It creates guilt and self loathing, maybe not at first, but at some point and it will last for a life time. And as with many things in life an affair is easier to get into then out of.

Your guilt can then develop into other negative, self sabotaging behaviors that will impact every aspect of your life. In exploring affairs with my clients, I and they come to see that it is many times a form of acting out. These clients many times are subconsciously trying to recreate their childhood experiences, realizing that their parents have done the same.